DIARY of a REALLY ANGRY BLACK MAN
Wednesday, October 7, 2009 by Juicy | 17 Comments; | Category: Culture, Gossip
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httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8WPL8KnJZY
TO HELL WITH DIVAS: My friend sent me this YOUTUBE clip and at first I thought it was your average bitter-man rant on the ole’ you tube, by some dude who been burnt one to many times, and has decided to make the ‘black woman’ the target of his scorn. But as I listened and LOL through this entire 10 minute clip, though pretty incendiary and flagrantly offensive, there seem to be quite some ‘truth’ in this author’s rant. This is extremely polarizing with hints of misogyny, but the subtext is ‘interesting’. I recently saw a movie DIARY OF TIRED BLACK MAN* which express the same sentiment, yet with a slight more tact and less anger, that’s rarely address, let alone brought up concerning the plight between Black men & Black women relations.
ACT LIKE A ‘REAL’ MAN : What you do have in charlatans ready to capitalizes on such matter like Steve Harvey. I was recently having a discussion with some female friends of mine who are eager to read the best selling book by Steve Harvey, ACT LIKE A LADY THINK LIKE MAN. I’ve always loath Steven Harvey, not cause he’s the LAMEST King of Comedy, or the fact he wears ridiculously poorly tailored suits, or the fact that he’s an insufferable coon who peddles bigoted ignorance to the ‘folks’, but rather….wait…NO! It’s all of those things. I think the irony of books like this is the seem to embrace and held in high reguard from the very people it seems to be exploiting and setting back the single mothers and desperate women (most notably black women) being sold a snake oil remedy to much deeper problem. It just seem retarded that black women would take advice from a twice divorce chauvinist, bigot who peddles bullshit! Steve Harvey is so retarded, I’m blown away how successful he is, because so un-intelligent.
SPREAD THE LOVE: Anyway, I digress. I believe you should date whom ever you desire. If black men really ‘ain’t shit’ or doesn’t treat you well move on and date someone who will. Cause, Black men, I can contest for, have ZERO qualms about dating anybody; Blacks, White, Latin, Asian, Midgets, and whatever. If it has two boobs and vagina, any man, a Black man, will most certainly date and F*CK it! Life is too hard and long to spend it unhappy and bitter about such a trivial issues. I never got situation of ‘finding a good BLACK man.’ Why can’t any MAN do? I’m not a black woman, nor do I think like one, so this plight eludes me. My mom is Black. She’s awesome!
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I have to say I agree 1000%. I’m a Black woman and my man is hispanic, and though that is not WHY I chose to date him nor the reason I feel that he is so good to me, I have to say that I have had my most fulfilling and uplifting relationship with him. Pretty much all my relationships with Black men in the past had been stressful to say the least.
This is nothing against my brothers, I love them and would not hesitate to date another were I unattached. But if I had the same hard and fast “I need to find a good Black man” rules as my homegirls, I never would have opened myself up to my current man and I would have missed out on the greatest man (besides my father) that I have ever known.
And so many of us ladies forget the very point you made: Black men have zero issues with stepping out with other women, regardless of any shank-eyes or shade we may throw them when we see them out. I’ve never heard a Black man say he needed to find a good Black woman or refuse to date another race out of some sense of loyalty. Why do we feel so compelled to be “loyal” to men who aren’t “loyal” to us?
Maybe we can take a page from their playbook and find more happiness instead of bitterness.
Wow that issue is so dated….This is 2009 why would you still be on White VS. Black. Who gives a fuck.
As far as black men and good ones and this and that. Its not these guys fault that those women be chasin the wrong shit and fallin for the same tired ass game. It’s their fault for being a sucky judge of character. It’s like seriously get off it. It’s not 1992……………..
And as far as being loyal black women would date the first thing comin blowin smoke up their ass just like black men. The only difference is that White women are more likely to date black men and white MEN are less likely to be down with dating a black woman. Not ALL white men are like this but rarely do you see an interracial couple that way. So it’s like you could if you would but can’t really? So you don’t. Not trying to be mean, it’s just me bein real.
Agree with a good number of points there. Im a black male, Ive finished college, and maintained jobs with no difficulty, and never been on the wrong side of the law. I have to say though in my relationships with black women (the majority) theres is always this refusal to just be equals. If Im not dominating the relationship or trying to fight anyone who looks her way Im seen as soft; if I take charge of a situation or steer the relationship in anyway Im seen as trying to repress her. By and large in my relationships with those of other races theres been a more even (and agreeable) attempt to approach the realationship as equals and really try to elevate ourselves together. Ive often had black women say to me “You need a strong black woman behind you”, I disagree. What I want is a strong woman and equal beside me. Not someone who opts to stand in my shadow and then throw bitterness my way for being there.
As a white man who is dating a black woman, this would seem at first to be something of interest to my girlfriend and I. However, a lot of finger pointing is going on. I firmly believe that one of the biggest problems in th U.S. is the lack of responsibility. Everybody wants to evade every kind of responsibility possible. I believe the author of this video needs to also take a look at himself. It takes two to have a baby and it should take two to raise a child. Don’t put the blame completely on the woman…take equal blame.
This being said, black men and women have had a legacy in the U.S. that can not be shared in too many other countries. There has been an astonishing amount of violence toward black men and women in the U.S. over the centuries and this has had an enduring impact. Still, I personally believe that in the modern times we live, one is only a victim if one lets himself or herself be a victim.
Let’s all take responsibility for our own actions. It takes two. Let’s not complain about single mothers not doing a proper job and pitch in and help those single mothers…this includes everybody, not just black men and black women.
Agrees 100% with Jeff
I agree with you Juicy. If you are not finding what you want move on. I personally would talk to any race. It makes no difference. I do however find these types of articles slightly narrow minded. Not because of the subject matter, there is some truth in there, but just how the article itself generalizes black men or black people into some common entity that you can scrutinize and decode. When in my opinion all human being are individuals and have their own ideas on life. The problem is the Culture not the people. The culture is non existent. So unfortunately a large number of blacks stick to what we have now, which is some post slavery BET bull shit. Oh yea fuck Steve Harvey. If what you’re looking for you don’t find in this particular guy, move to the next guy. If most of the guys in your area act the same, move to another area. But to generalize all blacks into one little box and say this and that about them is ignorant. I am black and I follow my own set of rules and morals. No one told me, I figured it out myself, by what feels good and right in my soul. I don’t follow any culture. I am a freelance human being. Keep looking and date whoever catches your fancy. Don’t blame it on their race or the ratio of people you find in that race who do this, as opposed to that. Now as far as the culture, I agree on a lot of the points and it needs to be changed. We are all Individuals. Date who you like, I do.
Just speaking from personal experience alot of black women see me as wierd or “a whiteboy” because I’m diverse and I’m not into the same boring shit that every other black male is into. Therefore I seldom connect with a black woman for a long term relationship. But from what I see is that alot of them let television and entertainment rule their life so they expect every black male to behave in a certain way. Most of the ones sayin there’s no good men out there be the first ones to run out and look for it in all the right places and ignore what’s under their nose. So it’s like you’re not gonna make a G into a husband the same way you’re not gonna make a whore into a housewife. But to say that black men ain’t worth shit just because you’re attracted to a certain type of male that lives a certain lifestyle and that lifestyle attracts you? That’s like saying they ain’t shit because they wont behave the way you want them to. So the world ain’t shit because it’s not what I thought it would be. That’s the most childish aspect that ANY woman can come from in my opinion.
@Jeff. To ask people to take their fair share of responsibility seems like an lofty ideal, but it’s not really one that very practical in this imperfect world.. You can try and play to people’s morality, but in the thick of it people do what’s most necessary to them as the world isn’t built fair. I guess the dilemma isn’t so much to cast blame on single mothers, but more so what is at the root of this culture of self-sabotage that allow a vast number of African-American women to seek out and mate with men who are not incline to raise their children, marry them, and enter in healthy relationships. In western culture women are the gate keepers of their bodies, and men generally have no recourse to reproductive rights of women’s bodies other than sperm giver. So I would think it would be prudent for women to be most selective in the men the date, marry, and mating with as not to put at economical and social disadvantage in shacking up with a loser who leave them with bastard babies.
I’m not a woman, but I think it’s a fool’s plan to bank on wishful thinking that any and every man should and will see what’s right and take his share of responsibility in relationship and parenting a child. It might not be fair but a woman as sooooooooooo much more to lose if she pick and create children with the wrong man, but that’s the way of the world. Men do the selecting, but ultimately women do the final selecting. “baby, will you marry me?”…….”I do.”
@ me163 “Wow that issue is so dated….This is 2009 why would you still be on White VS. Black” This issue is not so much black vs. white. But black vs. black, where it’s black people who are judging and pitting one another against another. If you think their is a problem, you can’t hope an wait for others to come together to solve it. You got to BE the solution. I personally don’t see a problem. Black people mating with Black people has never been a lofty ideal of mine. When I see White Nationalist and Right Wingers talking about the same issue, but about white pride it always seem wicked and racist. 70% of Black women not being wed seems like a scary statistics, but it’s one I have no fear of. They say, if you’re not part of the solution you’re part of the problem…so maybe I AM THE PROBLEM, cause I don’t really agree with the premise of the question.
But it’s interesting, and glad you shared. Thanks
He had some valid points once you got past his intial disgust, but what he is also doing is grouping all of those women into one category.
I am assuming that he is a black man himself, so he should already understand the problems of being tossed into a one size fits all stereotype whether the stereotype is based in truth or not.
However he did bring to the surface that most people in general refuse to take responsibility for the situations they put themselves in, hence his examples of the woman who allows herself to be impregnated by the “thug” or whatever ignorant overcompensating guys call themselves these days.
In the end he addressed some issues that everyone should take a look at and remedy so everyone can enjoy their lives.
Thats my two cents.
@Juice “70% of Black women not being wed seems like a scary statistics, but it’s one I have no fear of.”
I think it’s that way because that 70% is not happy with anything? So basically they spend their life chasing a fantasy that BET sold them and then when they realize that it dosen’t exist they’re still not happy.
Not sayin ALL black women are like this but if you were to compare maturity levels of women from all other races to maturity levels of black women…..NOT ALL but, I’m just saying collectively.
Of course there’s always a needle in a haystack wildcard in EVERY situation, but that’s not really something you can take into accord when you compare because you would be saying that because Solja Boy was successful I too can be successful when HE is one in a million out there wit bullshit.
So people dating outside their race may not even be ABOUT race but just maturity levels and one not really trying to waste their time, etc. If the person you happen to connect with happens to be of another race who gives a fuck. We’re all one race anyway in the end.
I don’t think I would say “maturity” is the root of the problem. Actually I wouldn’t even really say it’s a problem, as I don’t think ‘marriage’ is an absolute truth that all people need to aspire to. Humans are inclined to mate and reproduce, and that seems Black women are not at lost in the department. Marriage is not compulsory even in biblical days. Our society might think otherwise but we are beginning to learn. If you are single and not married that is fine so long as you are happy. But again, happiness is relative. If you are married and not happy that is even worse.
I would also like to saying having kids is gay. I’m sure there are some people who are married with children and the happiest shits ever…and I’m sure they’re in the minority. How many married people you know that you envy? Probably none that aren’t fictional. BUT why is ‘marriage’ the ultimate goal in life? Jesus Christ on a Cracker!
It’s surprising how many men I’m friends with who are going out with Asian girls. I’ll confess that I do find some Asian women to be very attractive, but what do you think the appeal is really based on? Why do some white guys only date Asian women…can someone explain the attraction to me?
It depends. where you are from. “others” are attractive. Asian people, in some regions or exotics, but if you live in say, California there are tons of Asians, and the the rarer they are the more people are drawn to them.
But interracial relationships are a tiny minority. Like 7%. I guess you just notice them more cus ty are different. There is no epidemic of race mixing. MOST people date in their race.
I gotta say, it’s amazing to me how many dudes I’m friends with who are dating Asian women. I’ll confess that I do find some Asian women to be very beautiful, but what do you think the attraction is really based on? Why do some white guys only date Asian women…can someone explain to me why so many guys have this preference?
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